A break up is always messy. It sucks, even more, when you still love each other but are just not at the right time in life to proceed with it. Sometimes people drift apart due to serious arguments that can never mend the bridge. Thus, only love can never be enough. Even if a relationship ends, it doesn’t mean the love will stop existing as well.
Are you still being haunted by the memories and nostalgia for this one person you left behind? Then you might still into your ex. Check out these 15 signs to find out for sure.
1. Having Hope
Even if the break up had been mutual and serious, an absolute end, still you seem to be nurturing the hope that things will get back to normal and they will come back. This doesn’t mean you are looking for closure. It simply suggests that you are still in love with them and haven’t moved on.
2. Stalking Their Social Media Accounts
You are still very much interested in their lives and curious to know if they are with someone new. To satiate your curiosity, you check out their social media activities in secret to keep an eye on their lives.
3. You Still Mourn The Break Up To Your Friends
Although the relationship has ended quite some time back, you still seem to be in a sad state and need your friends’ support to help you get through it. You need to rant and whine to them for letting your frustration out. This is a result of continuing to harbor love for that person.
4. Doubtful of Yourself
You keep going back to that dark place, thinking about why you guys broke up. The constant agony and irritation gives rise to self-doubt and determining that it was your fault that things had to end. You start feeling incompetent and average as you feel you didn’t deserve them.
5. Not Accepting Your Persistent Interest In Their Lives
Having been so in love and engrossed in each other, the break up really makes it difficult to snap out of habits. You are naturally interested in their lives and that bothers you. You feel shameful as you know your friends will reprimand you, but your love for him is overpowering.
6. Reminiscing the Happy Times
Before the break-up, it’s obvious that the relationship was going downhill and could not be saved. However, you can’t help but revisit the fond memories you shared with them as they fill you with hope and love.
7. Searching for Similar People
Since you haven’t yet been able to move on, you tend to gravitate towards people who look like them or have certain similar qualities.
8. No Certain Future Plans
As you are still dwelling on the past, you don’t feel any hope or expectations for the future. It’s unclear to you. Focus on the reasons why you chose to leave them in the first place and analyze your desires.
9. Mourn Your One True Love
Having been with them for so long, your life seems incomplete without them. You feel certain that you can’t fall for anyone else after this. It’s important for you to let go of him and start living again.
10. No Self Clarity
The relationship and the ex-formed a big part of your identity. Now that they’re gone, it leaves you feeling empty and questioning your position. Without the love, your body seems to have no purpose.
11. Many Hook- Ups
The most common and unhealthy way to try to move on over someone is to channel the pain and frustration into pointless sex with people who they will forget the next day. Most people, especially young ones, sort out their inner conflict like this.
12. Overthinking the Break-up
Nothing can be absolutely perfect, but you still are fixated over this break-up, thinking about ways to get it fixed. You keep looking for things that might have gone wrong so that you can rectify them and get back together.
13. You Try to Keep in Touch
The break up has left you feeling so whiny and needy that you can’t help but try to get in touch with them, mostly when you are out of your mind. You are attention-starved.
14. You Can’t Handle Rejection
You are very sensitive and so your friends and family can never approach you directly, lest they hurt you and you won’t shatter because of the struggle and will emerge stronger.
15. You Transform Others Into Your Ex
You are mostly concerned about things that your ex-liked and so to make more good memories, you try to shape the new people into them.