What exactly is bromance? Etymologically, it is a very close bond of friendship, affection, and emotional intimacy shared between two men. It was a concept that broke the stereotypical visions of bonding between the same genders. A part of the 21st-century global change of societal outlook, the term was combined with the words brother and romance. People might use it for mockery, but this is indeed a serious form of affection. At times, is stronger than the binaries of general romantic relationships. Believe it or not, men do find bromance easier and satisfying than romancing. This may be due to the commonness of thoughts, feelings, and perceptions.
The study about bromance
A study, published in Men and Masculinities, of around 30 straight men was conducted who were teenagers and were dating. All of them had ‘brothers for romancing’. With them, they could share their special secrets and be slightly more affectionate towards them than the rest of their friends. Undoubtedly, almost all men have one male friend to bromance with. No matter how close he might be to his girlfriend or other friends. As mentioned earlier, bromance is their comfort zone where there is a sense of understanding between the two men who do not judge each other and there is a clear sense of acceptance. There is no form of inferiority or superiority complexes between the two. They can blindly share their secrets with each other.
The survey also confirmed how comfortable men felt while discussing health issues with each other and the emotional bonding that was strengthened by the loss of some near ones. The friend transcends to becoming a brother who is exceptionally close. One could also talk about problems in a relationship with his friend which otherwise cannot be disclosed to a girlfriend. However, no matter how many new forms of radical changes come up in society, there will always be hesitation and insecurity of being judged upon.
Men can be emotional
Bromancing is frowned upon because conventionally men should be manly and not share such a deep and affectionate bond with another man. But people and society fail to view men as human beings. Men can experience strong emotions and they should be expressed as freely as women do. The binaries distinguishing a man and a woman need a lot of refection. Men can be emotional and women can be strong! It is not limited by the gender of a person.
It is really pathetic to see that society struggles to broaden up its perceptions on the definitions of love and affection. There will always be a set of insensitive mockery hurled at your sentiments when you try to not conform to the set binaries. People fail to understand that a relationship of love doesn’t necessarily need to end up in a marriage and kids. And even if it does, the zone of bromance is at its place which wouldn’t really affect the romantic relationship with a woman.