How many times have we come across someone we could easily connect to? Someone who would understand what we were thinking, and would go way beyond just the physical, into the emotional. And how many times have we simply friend-zoned that person, while dating or being with someone who is in it just for the physical attraction? We really don’t understand relationships, do we?
Well, the best thing anyone could ever do is to choose a lover who will be their best friend too! Someone, whom you can kiss in the middle of the road and then laugh at other people watching you guys.
The road between friends and lovers is usually considered to be dangerous and leads to the breaking of both relations if handled wrong. Best friends seldom become lovers and there are rarely any relationships where both the partners have each other to share all secrets with. They spend their nights equally between making love and cuddling under a blanket. And that is the dream, isn’t it? To be with someone you can critique Pulp Fiction with after you have romped in the sack? Yes. The answer is a pretty darn yes! For, a relationship becomes boring when it’s just love, with no amount of friendship. As friends, you can do certain things which you can’t as lovers.
Intimacy is always an issue in a relationship. A new relationship can often lead to awkward moments, where just the need of the physical is more important than the emotional. As friends, you can not only share your deepest secrets, but you can also get to know theirs. The feeling of mutual co-existence beats any form of relationship anyone could ever have.
Next, we come to this beautiful point, where both partners can meet each other’s families, and get enmeshed as one. This seldom happens as lovers, for a lover is only interested in you; they don’t care much about your family. But a best friend is going to call your mother and father as their parents too. And when you eventually get married, the transitioning would get easier.
With having your lover as your best friend, there are several advantages.
One of them being that even the silences that you share would never get awkward. In fact, you would be comfortable in it. Also, you would love going on adventures, doing things that you never had thought of before simply because you have someone who would encourage you to do it, or challenge you if the need be.
But the biggest advantage of such a relationship is that both of you help each other grow. A lover would overlook all your vices, but a best friend would get real with you. They would help you understand the world, and the love that you share would be felt by all!