Nobody says that a relationship is going to be easy. In fact, it’s going to be really hard and demands a lot from both partners to make it work. But if you care, then you will make it work. In spite of all the sermons and the bits of advice, marriages turn out to be as fragile as orchids. At first, though, they may seem as exquisite and ethereal like orchids. The reasons for a break might be external but the real reason seems to be with one of the partners.
Though it isn’t easy pinpointing any particular reason, or a combination of factors, we can at least present a list of typical foibles that one should look out for in a partner before plunging into matrimony:
Working hard is okay. Toiling is fine but doesn’t be the workhorse who grinds compulsively at the expense of all other pursuits. When work takes precedence over every other thing in life, the first victim is the work itself. Work is supposed to ease your life and not make you Frankenstein. Think twice before you tie the knot with this man who doesn’t know when work ends and misery begins.
2. Respect – The Cornerstone Of All Relationships
It is not just loved that keeps a relationship rolling. There are friendship and honesty but just as important, perhaps more, is the presence of respect. It sets the tone for the resolution of the omnipresent conflict in a relationship. Do not wait for the lack of respect to degenerate into abuse. End it right there.
3. The Conservative – The Zombie
This drains out the dynamism in all relationship. Every innovation is a danger in their opinion. Live to laugh in the present than look for a utopian bliss in some distant future. Life can be depressing living with someone who just sits and thinks.
4. Excuse Me; If That Is All You Bring To The Table.
Marriage is between equals. So, the least you can expect is results or an honest effort. He has to keep his word. Excuses reek of dishonesty after a certain period. To be frank, excuse yourself from such men for he is seldom good at anything else.
5. Liar, Liar
Dishonesty has no place in a relationship. And do not delude yourself that it was a single incident. Scratch the surface and you will see that the rot has set in deeper. A man who lies psychologically abuses you, and the scars are as deep as the physical ones. The relationship is over.
6. The Argumentative Husband
Every relationship has its quota of arguments. It should lead to a resolution, not victors. But when volume scores over reason, it is time to part ways.
7. Fighting Forever
Let all fights in your relationship be for each other, not against. But when it starts coming in thick and fast, and the reasons start to mean little, you know that the music is dead. And it is time to move on.
8. Room Of One’s Own
Within the castle of a beautiful relationship there exist rooms for each other where entry is by invitation only. Where you go to contemplate and convalesce. You did not marry a stalker or a gatecrasher. Consider putting up a sign ‘No Trespassing’.
9. The Animal Hater
If a man doesn’t like animals, chances are high he cares little for his wife. Always go for a guy who loves animals.
10. The Dishonest
If he has betrayed you once he will do it every time you give him a chance, second, third or tenth. Rest assured he might be cheating on you even as he professes his undying love. Just boot him out.
11. The Childish
Immaturity has no place in a relationship. Such people seem to have failed to crawl out of the crib. Like trees, they take forever to grow up.