It is never easy when you realize that the person you’re in love with is not being faithful to you. All that time and effort you put into making them happy feels like it has been wasted and the betrayal is almost too much to bear. There are many signs which indicate that your girlfriend is seeing someone else and you only need to look closely to figure it out.
These 20 warning signs will show you if your girlfriend is being unfaithful.
1. She’s suddenly keeping track of your every move
The most important part of having an affair is ensuring that it stays a secret. It is only when it comes out in the open that you have to face the consequences of your actions. Your girlfriend will start questioning you about where you are going and when you’ll be back all the time so that you won’t be there when she doesn’t want you.
2. There’s racy lingerie which you’ve never seen
While men usually don’t have many choices when it comes to sexy lingerie, the market is simply overflowing with designs for women and they aren’t hesitant to use them. Lingerie makes women feel sexier and daring. If you find racy things which you’ve never seen on her, she’s probably wearing them for someone else.
3. She pays more attention to her phone than to you
A lot of people seem to have this issue these days and it is not unusual to see groups of people hanging out, all furiously scrolling away on their devices. But there are boundaries in every relationship and when she’s on her phone when you’re trying to have a moment just for the two of you, there is clearly a problem.
4. She makes plans without you
Women like to take their men along whenever they’re attending any social function and even if you don’t like it if she’s doing it, it is a sign that your relationship is serious. But if she’s stopped inviting you to places, either your behavior isn’t great or she’s going to break up with you or she’s got another man on her mind.
5. She won’t take calls unless she’s alone
It’s true that most people have now moved on to texting but this only means that when a phone call comes in it has to be about something that is actually important. So if she doesn’t answer calls when you are with her, it is most likely because she has a secret you can’t know about.
6. Both of you only sleep on the bed
Sex is an essential part of any romantic relationship. While it is not uncommon to have a dry spell now and then, you will definitely feel like making love to each other at some point. If she cuts you off cold turkey, either your relationship is falling apart if she’s getting her pleasure from another man. Neither reason spells anything good for you.
7. She keeps changing the subject
At the bottom of our hearts, we all know when we’ve done something wrong and cheaters are no different. They simply deal with these pricks to their conscience by completely pushing those feelings away. If you ever try to question her about anything, she will just change the subject or throw a tantrum or throw accusations at you.
8. She’s got a brand new look
When you’re in that initial honeymoon phase of the relationship, you’ll both do your best to look and act as great as possible. But once you get comfortable, you stop caring about those things. If she suddenly gets a brand new look, you should start being wary because it means that she’s met someone else she wants to impress.
9. She’s stopped making eye contact
You can really figure out what someone is thinking just by looking into their eyes. The popular notion that the eyes cannot lie is not without substance. Does your girlfriend no longer look you in the eye? Does she look unfocused? There might be different reasons but they all center on her hiding something from you.
10. She’s started working overtime all the time
Hollywood doesn’t get a lot of things right but it wasn’t wrong about this one. When your partner is being unfaithful, it is mostly with one of her colleagues. They’re the people she spends the most time with and with whom she will actually get opportunities to cheat. If she’s working late a lot, going on frequent business trips, and so on, you should start checking.
11. She nags you all the time
All of us have some quirks that can annoy others but when she starts picking at you for every little thing, something is seriously wrong. She’s trying to justify her own mistakes by making you look like a shitty boyfriend.
12. She stops confiding in you
Cheating isn’t just a physical action. It can also be mental and emotional. The bond that you shared in your relationship might have been replaced by a strong emotional connection to someone else. The lines are quite blurry on this one but it is an undeniable sign. She’s now got someone else to confide everything to.
13. She’s not open to commitment
As sexist as it may sound, it is not untrue that women are usually looking for a man who is ready to commit to them while men are not so ready to settle down with someone. However, there are men who are just looking for a long-term relationship. Women who cheat will lose interest in settling down and they’ll stop bringing up anything to do with commitment.
14. She’s defending her actions at all times
As any crime show will tell you, a person who is guilty will be more defensive than an innocent person. The same thing applies to cheaters. If you question your girl when she’s innocent, she’ll only get offended that you could think of such a thing. But if she’s guilty, she’ll get defensive whether you question her or not.
15. She smells different
Maybe she’s changed her perfume or maybe another man’s perfume is rubbing off on her. The former is just like getting a makeover. It means she’s looking for someone new. The latter is obviously a terrible thing because she’s so close to another man physically that she smells like him now.
16. She’s not interested in seeing the people you care about
When people in the same friends’ circle break up, it is not easy for everyone else because they can’t look like they’re picking a side. Nobody ever wants to have to deal with all their close friends and family poking in when they’re going through a break-up. If your girl is no longer keen on meeting the people you’re close to, it might mean that she is ready to break it off.
17. She’s completely indifferent
The other extreme from all squabbling, this is when she cares so little that she doesn’t even want to put in the effort of saying something. She won’t question anything you do and it is actually terrifying when you realize that she has left you far behind.
18. You start realizing that she’s become distant
It is usually men who have a hard time being open emotionally. It is much easier for women to be connected emotionally and when they start becoming distant, it only spells disaster. Becoming closed off is her telling you that she doesn’t care much for you anymore.
19. She’s independent to a fault
While it is important that both of you have your own space in the relationship, you also need to be careful that that space doesn’t become a gulf that can’t be bridged. She’ll stop telling you about her plans and you probably won’t see her very often. She’ll never have time for just the two of you anymore.
20. Every situation ends in a fight
Even topics that were harmless earlier will blow up for no reason you can point out. This will keep happening all the time till all you do together is a fight. You never know when these fights will escalate and become violent so it is always best to get out of a bad relationship as soon as possible.