Relationships are taxing in many ways:
1. Physically, because you have a bigger social circle along with a changed sleep-wake cycle; and that is considering we don’t bring sex into the equation.
2. Mentally, because people think about the future a lot. As a matter of fact, if your peace of mind is not rattled even a little by the anxieties you feel for your life together, you should re-evaluate your relationship again.
3. Emotionally, well because you are responsible for one whole other person. As a result, you deal with twice the emotional baggage than usual and
4. Economically: Let us face it, despite what so many counter-cultural movements say, sometimes expenses overlap. There are birthdays, graduations, anniversaries etc.
So why do we keep doing these toxic things?
To quote Woody Allen, “We do it for the eggs”.
The eggs or perks of every successful relationship is this feeling of being so utterly complete and fulfilled that it trumps every other feeling in the world.
When you find that one person who is totally yours and who loves you with every iota of their power, hold on to them. These eggs are not just any eggs. Do not let go of them.
Now let’s address this other issue at hand: the issue of guys being considered incapable of love. Well, it’s just not true. Yes, men are taught to hide their feelings and to not show vulnerability, but that does not necessarily mean that they are simply too thick for emotions.
They are just bad at showing their feelings off because they have taught to stay that way by society. So what is the solution to this conundrum?
Well, you will have to understand the depth of his feelings. And that is what this list of ours will help you do.
Here are 15 tell-tale signs that will confirm what you feel in your heart: It is a forever kind of love.
1. He doesn’t care about your haircuts
“I want you to understand me, Dell,” he said. “Nothing like a haircut could make me love you any less,” says Jim when he sees Della’s gorgeous tresses gone. As a matter of fact, the only bit of surprise he does show was because he had sold his greatest possession to buy her the ornate set of combs she wanted. When he lets go of the shallow habits known to characterize men, he transcends their kind of shallow “love” too.
2. He thinks you are beautiful even when you are just out of bed
You are beautiful because you are you, the person he is in love with. You are the person who has made his life better. So when you wake up beside him, it is the best sight in the world for him. He is not the kind who likes to look at you only when you are all dolled up to go to a party. You are the most beautiful to him all day.
3. The fact that you too are aging doesn’t bother him
Others look at their partner’s wrinkles and think how their time in the sun and hay is limited and feel sad about it. He, on the other hand, sees you age and thinks how far you too have come together and rejoices over the fact that you two get to grow older together. His future cannot be without you, and he cherishes that notion a lot.
4. If you lose too much weight, this is what he thinks
No, he doesn’t find you hot(later). As a matter of fact, he feels concerned and will make you stop overworking or dieting. He will make sure you are healthy and not skinny just for the sake of appearances. Same goes with you gaining weight: unless you gain enough to affect your health, he wouldn’t even care to notice.
5. When you are between jobs, he will take care of your bills
As long as you are happy, he doesn’t care about finances; this shows trust because he is pretty sure you will do the same if he was in your shoes right then.
6. If you are having a “bad day”, he is the one beside you
If he is patient enough to stay by your side despite your depression especially after having seen you on your so-called bad-days, he is the one. He can handle anything you throw at him then.
7. He sets you free
He takes care of the all the subconscious inhibitions you felt all your life and makes sure you are truly free enough to reach your fullest potential and he makes you the best version of yourself; something you even thought was impossible.
8. He respects your personal space
This is one of the things that separate the ideal relationships from the mediocre ones. Personal space motivates a person to think and reflect and consequently better their lives. When you have an insecure boyfriend breathing down your back, you know instinctively that you aren’t doing yourself any favors being with him. With him, however, you have no such problems/apprehensions.
9. He doesn’t try to change the person you are
It is the weirdness that gives each of us our unique character. If that spark is lost, everyone will be the same, boring person. He understands that fully and never tries to change you. On the other hand, the waters your eccentricities more and makes them bloom.
10. He forgives your temper problems
He forgives your anger and unnecessary rage because he knows it’s only human to lose it once in a while and he takes it all and does not make a sound in return, because he knows very well that you will feel guilty about it yourself and apologize later.
11. He understands your mood swings
He happens to understand that you don’t have a hold on your mood swings. They aren’t under your control and you shouldn’t be held responsible for them, hence.
12. He forgives your misjudgments
And makes sure he doesn’t do anything to incur your anger anyway.
13. He lets go
When you fight, he makes sure to let go before you two go to bed. If couples take their fights to bed, they brood over it all night and the next day and it festers like a wound. Hence he makes sure that doesn’t happen.
14. He knows all about you
Because he makes sure to listen carefully when you confide in him your deepest and darkest secrets. And he helps you get over whatever haunts your dreams.
15. He heals you
Whatever happened to you that made you lose your faith and belief, he reverses it with his love, affection, and care. He makes you have more faith in yourself and in humanity in general.