Sometimes, when it seems that your child is acting out, that might not be what they’re actually trying to do. It is important to be able to tell the difference between being a naughty kid and simply reacting to your surrounding or behaving according to your age so that, as parents, we can react accordingly.
Here are 10 naughty kid behaviours that are very normal.
1. Inability To Control Themselves
You know that moment when you tell your child not to do something and they just go ahead and do it? Studies show that impulse control doesn’t completely develop till the time we become young adults. In fact, one of the latest studies shows that most adults believe that kids develop much faster than they actually do. More than half the parents surveyed thought that kids can obey a command by the time they are three-years-old. But this ability only sets in when they turn four.
When you visit the supermarket, the playground, or any eventful location with your child, you are more likely to experience them throwing a tantrum or breaking down for seemingly no reason. According to experts, too much activity can make a child react adversely to stress. They need periods of rest between periods of activity.
3. State Of Body
Even as adults we tend to get more irritable when we’re hungry or tired. Children experience this but much more intensely. They don’t have the self-control to remain calm when they’re worn out, hungry, or ill. They often can’t express their emotions and unlike adults, who know they have to get food or medicine or some rest, kids only become confused and irritable.
4. Built Up Emotions
Over the years, we all learn to keep calm no matter how strong our feelings are. We learn to compartmentalize or push these emotions away. Children aren’t ready for that and they need to be able to express themselves without being penalized for doing so.
5. Itching To Move
Since their bodies and minds are still developing, children will feel an intense need to stay in motion. Their instincts push them towards doing things like roughhousing, climbing, running around, etc. Rather than yelling at them, helping them channelize their energy in a constructive manner would be much more productive.
6. Instinctive Defiance
Most parents get really irritated when their kids do something like giving themselves a hair cut or when they refuse to wear clothing appropriate for the weather and so on. But according to Erik Erikson, children do this because they have an instinctive need to learn independence and how to survive in this world.
7. Inbuilt Strength
Most people are guilty of having a talent that also lands them in trouble. Some find it very easy to concentrate on something but hard to break out of that zone; others have great intuition but also tend to get immersed in the toxicity of others, etc. Children also have this issue. A child can be very motivated to work hard and succeed, but at the same time find it hard to cope with failure. They may be careful at all times, but also afraid to try something for the first time. It is important to see this sort of behaviour for what it is and help them work through it.
8. Urge To Keep Playing
When a child does something silly like trying on their mother’s makeup or parading around with their face covered in mud, they are just trying to get you to play. They are quick to realize that love and laughter are connected to entertainment and originality. Children also want attention from their parents. You can keep them from going overboard by ensuring that they have sufficient time to play every day.
9. Responding To How The Parents Feel
There are a lot of studies which prove that one person’s feelings easily affects those around them even if that person doesn’t intend for it to happen. Children can sense their parents’ emotions and when the latter are irritable or worn out, their children copy their behaviour.
10. Lack Of Consistency
As parents, we should be consistent in the boundaries we set for our children. They don’t understand why you allowed them to eat chocolate one day in the evening and refused to give them and the next day. They want to be set in their patterns. While exceptions are allowed, maintaining consistency at all times is also required.